Black, White or Grey

Personalities and people are often differentiated on the basis of two colors - Black and White. As kids, this is how we segregated people in our lives. The good people signified white and the ones that had to be kept at an arm's length were symbolized by the color black. We kept on doing so for long but then we began to grow. 

We began to understand that not everyone can always be good or not everyone is always going to be bad. We began to realize that the world was not always about black and white, it consisted of shades of grey. All of us had shades of grey, we weren't blacks or whites. Sometimes we were good, sometimes we were bad; sometimes we were forced to be good, sometimes we were compelled  to be bad. Either ways we understood that life was never going to be black or white for us.

Didn't this happen to all of us during our teens or early youth? We accepted people with their flaws, we accepted the fact that people with a heart of gold could react unreasonably. We adjusted, we compromised, we ourselves began doing things that came in our convenience zone. We decided it was okay to be selfish, it was okay to break the rules, it was okay to accommodate with people's dark side because in the end, they were humans who were allowed to commit mistakes.

But now that I am 25+, I kind of realize the meaning behind black and white. I understand why our elders differentiated our lives in two parts. This is because it makes our life easier. Isn't life already too complicated to adjust to people's tantrums, moods and decisions? Why should we compromise at the stake of other people's priorities? I kind of feel, this shades of grey thing is simply introduced in the society to make black people look acceptable.

What is wrong is wrong! It can not be justified with the fact that the person is good at heart. You can't play with your nation's crucial information just because you wanted to feed your family's stomach. You can't play with two people's heart and yet say I did not mean foul for anyone. You can't steal from someone just because you wanted to bring a smile on someone else's face. These are simple examples of black people who try to portray themselves as white when in reality, they are wrong. 

Segregating people basis black and white is so much better than accepting their greys because sometimes, grey is no justification for the wrong you did. Why complicate your life by including such people in your life? Why compromise? Would you like a stolen pair of earrings? Would you like a refurbished home that has been built by money collected from bribe? Would you like have that fancy bag for school that comes out of some homeless child labor deprived of his daily wages? 

So stop people if they try to enter your circle of grey because that circle of intersection of black and white ought to remain empty. Lead a guilt-free life. Stay loyal to Karma. After all, what goes around comes back around.

 

Ways to deal with depression

Guest Post by Kiran

Today, I read an article in Times Life that reminded me my gloomy days. We all in almost all stage of our life face some kind of stress, frustration and loneliness and yes, we try to overcome it by different ways but many times situation becomes too difficult for us to handle so we try to give ourselves physical pain just to divert our mind towards the external pain and the formula really works. May be secretly, but yes many of us have done this and I know how difficult it is to admit it publicly. Being a teenager I can really correlate all this to my life.

To overcome these situations many of us believe that sharing your problems helps a lot. I agree too, it helps a lot but in today’s socialized life, we all know the situation and maximum time we are left with so the source of problem is isolation. We are social animals and we are born to be in a society, without which we can never survive, we depend on others for over survival. Each one of us needs someone with whom we can share and discuss. However, what to do when we don’t have that someone in our life? Moreover, it surely doesn’t mean one should cut themselves.

Believe it or not, but your stressful days can be a boom to you. They can really help you to explore yourself and to know your soul even better. Never force yourself to be happy when you are dying inside, don’t ignore your inner voice, let yourself be free to express your feelings at least to you. Be true to yourself, you can’t hide anything from yourself. Then try to figure out what and when things went wrong, recalling your past will never harm you and try to learn from your mistakes, where you went wrong or when and why the situation went against you.

After that, try to rearrange things to make them come under control. If you are really sure that there is no way out then this is the time to flush all your worries to gutter. Why to worry if you can’t do anything about it? Worrying will also do nothing. Give yourself a long break, try to feel the rhythm of your heartbeat and dance to it. Life is a real gift and we all know it will end one day then why to die every day.

Give yourself a chance to paint, write or do some kind of creative work. Trust me this really helps a lot. Don’t ever worry if you are worst in it still it is far better than hurting yourselves. If you are afraid to show it then do it secretly it will definitely do no harm. I have come across many people who are very creative when they are stressed because this is the best way one can express his feelings. It is well said art is the only thing by which one can connect to their soul and can express every hidden desire or even deep sorrows. So, whenever you feel stressed dance, paint, write and do everything you once dreamed of. You never now, your inner soul may have a hidden Picasso dying to come out.     

Kiran is a final year student of B.Tech(EC) in G.L.Bajaj Institute of Technology and Management, Greater Noida. She loves reading and has finally decided to pour out her feelings on an online platform, till now she preferred writing in her personal diary.